moonlit_reveries's "Relationship vision goals"

1. 1. learn how to express my true feelings effectively in relationships and with family Drag me to re-order

2. 2. Stand up for myself when an injustice has occurred by sharing my perspective, my feelings Drag me to re-order

3. 3. Get in touch with my true feelings which I’m struggling to express through a journaling or poetry/art before I express them Drag me to re-order

4. 4. Practice taking small risks with opening up by sharing a personal secret with a close friend who is bound to accept me still Drag me to re-order

5. 5. Open up about my direct concerns even those that are uncomfortable, in a relationship Drag me to re-order

6. 6. stand up to my mom when my feelings are hurt Drag me to re-order

7. 7. Stand up to my mom if I have a really important/value belief that she tramples over Drag me to re-order

8. 8. Make a list of my interests that I’d like more support in Drag me to re-order

9. 9. Google for groups for each of those interests Drag me to re-order

10. 10. Introduce myself with a post Drag me to re-order

11. 11. Reply to interesting posts Drag me to re-order

12. 12. Add likeminded people in the online groups to my IM lists if possible or email them and for friendships Drag me to re-order

13. 13. Search for expressive arts volunteer activities and get involved and meet friends there Drag me to re-order

14. 14. Go to expressive arts camps/conventions Drag me to re-order

15. 15. Search for likeminded people on myspace and okcupid and get to know them online Drag me to re-order

16. 16. search for poetry readings in LA and make a lists of of places I'd like to attend Drag me to re-order

17. 17. When and if it feels comfortable, arrange to meet some of these people in person Drag me to re-order

18. 18. go to a poetry reading Drag me to re-order

19. 19. Become active in a poetry group again Drag me to re-order

20. 20. Bring up issues with my mom in therapy and ask for suggestions Drag me to re-order

21. 21. Join online emotional support groups and post there whenever I feel frustrated. Drag me to re-order

22. 22. Journal about my more challenging experiences with my mom and explore my thoughts and feelings Drag me to re-order

23. 23. Read articles about setting boundaries with my mom Drag me to re-order

24. 24. Start setting boundaries with my mom Drag me to re-order

25. 25. Distance myself physically (by spending more time somewhere else) and emotionally from my mom. Drag me to re-order

26. 26. Ask her about her interests and feelings on neutral topics and listen attentively, then share my own views Drag me to re-order

27. 27. Tune into any grudges I have against her and make a list of known issues that are blocking my from compassion (this list is not set in stone but is changing with time and can be modified) Drag me to re-order

28. 28. Coach myself on any past resentment with my mom Drag me to re-order

29. 29. Journal about any past resentment with my mom Drag me to re-order

30. 30. Forgive my mom and focus on the future Drag me to re-order

31. 31. Review and reread the NVC direct requests section Drag me to re-order

32. 32. When I become confident with direct requests in low-risk situations start to make direct requests in more important situations (such as with friends and professional situations) Drag me to re-order

33. 33. If I’m having trouble expressing a feeling directly, let the other person know that I’m struggling to express this feeling Drag me to re-order

34. 34. Coach myself on feelings I find difficult to express to others Drag me to re-order

35. 35. Before I make a request, visualize what I really want, and make a list/note if that helps. Drag me to re-order

36. 36. Stand up for myself or someone else when a small injustice has occurred.. Drag me to re-order

37. 37. Look for compassionate friendly people who share my interests on an online site and initiate conversation with them. Drag me to re-order

38. 38. Continue to talk with the potential friends I meet and let those that will blossom into a friendship Drag me to re-order

39. 39. Become comfortable with all sides of myself through coaching, support and self reflection Drag me to re-order

40. 40. Do an art project that expresses the hidden parts of myself Drag me to re-order

41. 41. Write a poem about the hidden parts of myself. Drag me to re-order

42. 42. Tune into my feelings and list the issues/situations related to uncomfortable boundaries Drag me to re-order

43. 43. set clear boundries within friendships Drag me to re-order

44. 44. Briefly review all the Imago exercises to remember where I am in my development and what I’m seeking Drag me to re-order